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#2204055 Rick Rypien found dead

Posted by NeverForgetMac25 on 16 August 2011 - 04:13 PM

I'm not sure there is a "wrong emotion". People handle stuff like this in different ways. There may very-well be some people who were a helluva lot closer to Rypien than I was feeling the same way at this moment, because according to everything I've been reading the last few minutes, anger is a very common emotion in a case like this. I've also been reading that denying anger is more harmful than expressing it, so I guess perhaps I'm more well-adjusted than you give me credit for.

edit: I want to be clear. Me feeling angry (and it is perhaps better described as bewilderment) comes from a place that has nothing to do with what a family member may feel. It may be a similar emotion but is undoubtedly rooted in a different place.

And thanks Karen, but I'm just a hockey fan like you guys. And sorry for your loss also.

I never said you weren't well-adjusted or that holding in anger is a good thing. I simply find it to be misplaced in the case of depression. A few of the closest people in my life have battled depression their whole lives, and I also had a friend who ultimately took his life because he simply couldn't bear to live with it any longer.

Like you said, your feeling of anger is perhaps better described as bewilderment. I think that's a much better way of putting it. For me, the only sense of anger I can see regarding this situation would be if Rick had continuously tried to get help for his depression and the system kept failing him because we just don't have a handle on depression the way we'd all like up to this point.