SouthernWingsFan

I have found from a serious level of depression that nothing gives me joy anymore, but I could distract from my pain.

Now I cannot seem to find any distraction from my pain and I feel very helpless and desperate.  I don't have any money for therapy but I really could use something to escape this horrible life I built.

I mean reading, music, movies, tv, activities, they don't do anything for me anymore.  I need some sort of idea, does anyone have any idea of what I should do?

To be honest, in terms of activities, that's all it is for some people, and they are fine with it.

Outside of work and taking care of bills/house chores, my hobbies are usually just some combination of exercise, reading, video games, reading the news, watching sports, cooking a new meal every now and then, going out for a dinner/drink in a low-key environment off/on. I rarely go cutting up or staying out until midnight or in the wee hours of the morning out somewhere (nor do I really want to stay out late unless it is with people I really want to be with).

Generally speaking, that's probably not too exciting possibly compared to other people's lives, but it's my life and I'm fine with it. It's my life, my stuff and nobody else's. And it is just me, myself and I. While I certainly have great family and enjoy seeing people obviously I have no spouse, no kids. If this is the worst that's going on, then it is still pretty good and I am still extremely fortunate to be doing these things. Could my life be more exciting or have more experiences or whatever? Without question. Could my life be far worse? No doubt about it. I learn to take joy or value out of this mindset. Am I selling myself short? Could be if you want to view it that way, but I don't like thinking like that and I just enjoy the present.

And to be honest, while I speak only for myself I think a good bit of other people's listings or hobbies would include some form of the same.

There's certainly nothing wrong with wanting more out of life, but you need to learn how to do that while trying to do things to enjoy your present life. If your life doesn't change much for better or worse until then, or stays as it is for the long haul, try to learn to appreciate the simple things in life over and over again. That's how it is with my life with a lot of things, and I'm happy to do them, no matter how repetitive or menial they may be at times.

Still here off/on, not as frequent as the past.

Definitely wouldn't be against it.

It's not like we'd be counting on him for top-line minutes and he's had spurts of success on a 2nd/3rd line role.  And as often is the case with scapegoats or whipping boys, which Samuelsson often was here, their negative status is often overdramatized.

I get wanting to see young guys or people from Grand Rapids more, but unless Cleary is injured beyond repair, which I am definitely not hinting or suggesting at, none of them are going to be called up ahead of him.

The Cleary disdain in here in general, while far from flooding the forums here, is still boggling.  Some of you are nuts regarding the subject, and you know who you are.

I am not making him out to be more than he is, so you can save your keystrokes there.  And spare us any "Cleary apologist" or similar responses.

Eventually when all forwards are healthy again, I think he is best suited for the 3rd line with Helm/Miller etc., but to say he isn't capable in more of a scoring role isn't accurate to me.  The recent past of 2009 playoffs where he netted 9 and scoring 25+ goals last season attest that he is capable of such a role, even if his numbers don't quite show that this season.

Cleary is out again? Shocker.

And you doing nothing else in this forum but bagging on him is not shocking either, so why should we take you seriously?

And spare us any "I told you he was injury prone" or "I knew I'd be right all along" or "Cleary lovers" type responses.

There is a difference between making a mistake and not playing hard.

Pretty much it.

As long as mistakes like that aren't the norm and the player is giving the effort, I'm rarely going to go nuts on a guy for making a mistake or brainfart.  Happen to pretty much everybody.

Miller is not overly physical and will never be a 30-goal scorer but he busts his rear end pretty much every play which is his most important quality for this team.

Good to see him get rewarded on the stat sheet some lately.

Does Conklin have a 2-way contract?  If so, why don't they swap MacDonald and Conklin, that way we have a reliable backup for now and Conklin can see some regular action and get back into a groove.

I know Conklin hasn't played well but I don't like how people talk about him like he's garbage.  We know there's talent in there, and to be fair he hasn't played consistently and most of his games have come when the Wings take the night off.  Obviously he's expendable, but I don't think it's quite fair to completely denigrate the guy.

Pretty much exactly how I feel.  Not trying to solely defend Conklin, maybe I am, but the team didn't show up well for him last night and a good bit this season.  Obviously he himself has certainly not helped his own cause either.

I'm not against anything in terms of the backup goalie position, but I don't think it's time to officially declare a move/trade for a backup.

While I do have a soft spot some for Conklin, I really just wish I could understand why the continued hesitancy towards MacDonald.  I'm not trying to make him out to be more than he is, but last season in extended relief, did as good as you could ask for.  Last night, the same.  If Conklin continues to struggle, why not promote MacDonald up to #2?  If worst comes to worst and you have to put Conklin on waivers and nobody claims him, I wouldn't think that three goalie salaries in the current roster makeup would put a lot of pressure on their salary cap (please correct me if I am wrong, I don't follow salaries/the cap situation at all).

And I want to state that in this situation it would make me very happy if Conklin stops struggling, but his chances are getting fewer and fewer obviously.

I like it.  If it was just showing off and being a goof at the beginning I wouldn't watch as much (and I do like that part - they get creative and as long as players aren't showing up others to make them mad and it's all in good joking fun, all for it), but I'm glad they also put an event at the end as well where they are serious about the shootout as well.

No problems with it.  And if it brings in more fans that don't watch hockey, more power to it.  Me as a hockey fan already and most others in here will probably be at least tuning in with some interest regardless.

I know my hate for Dan Cleary seems to get under a lot of Cleary lover's skin here. To me he is worthless I've been saying it for a while. So at 49 games on the books, lets see what he has done.
10 goals
11 assists

On a world class team. He's a horrible skater, injured often, and is completely worthless especially for how much he is making this year (2.8 million) Keep in mind Zetterberg's cap hit is 6 million.

So I pose this question again, without Crimson trolling me. How many of you would like to see Cleary gone at the trade deadline this year? At this point I'd trade him for a washing machine just to get him off and Mursak on.

You are going to be hard pressed to convince the majority to trade him, sorry.  He is one of the most versitaile players the Wings have, capable of producing in more of an offensive role, or playing more of a 3rd line/defense role like he's been doing most of this season.

Is he worth this much in his current contract?  Debatable.  Is he worth trading?  Not to me, and so far not to a lot of others on here.

Why are you so fixated on him in a bad way anyways, even when he was doing solid last season?  Why not any other athletes on the team, and why just him?  Really do want to know why and not just asking this to sound like a smart allec.

EDIT:  And you'll probably find very few in here who are "Dan Cleary lovers".  It's just you having an extreme view on the complete opposite end of the spectrum which causes you to think this.

Bobby Ryan or Ryan Getzlaf please.

Thank you.

What's up man.  Seems like you are doing the right things.  You are being open enough to her about your issues, and you are possibly seeking therapy.  It's going to be up to her in the end if you all want to stay together, so don't go overboard trying to be a different person or just doing a complete 180 change instantly trying to force a decision on her.  You are who you are, you are trying to naturally/gradually change for the better, hopefully this is enough for her to remain together with you.  If not, she's not a bad person and there's nothing wrong with you, again it's just who you are and you seem like a good guy trying to get comfortable with a better life.  If it doesn't work out, there will be other chances for a relationship.

Yep.

The play of Crawford and Emery will be a big factor in determine how far they go but they definitely got the scoring/talent.

It's cuz you guys are all jerks.

esteef

Well you smell.

Brett Lebda.








What, you didn't think I was going to mention Jonathan Ericsson were you?

I am disappointed to see that nobody has mentioned more cowbell yet.