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[WizardOfOz30]

Most states have a law that says you are only able to move a child so many miles away from their non-custodial parent. Michigan is 100 miles, so if they want to move any farther the court has to decide and it's up to the one that wants to move to prove that it would be to improve the quality of life for the child...and even then they don't have to say yes.

[P. Marlowe]

"Personal reasons" means it's none of our business.

[Hairy Lime]

His wife has a daughter with another man. She can't move out of the state of California with her daughter... and obviously she's not going to leave her daughter behind.

Then why doesn't Stuart just have the father knocked off? That's what they always do on "Discovery ID".

[F.Michael]

His wife has a daughter with another man. She can't move out of the state of California with her daughter... and obviously she's not going to leave her daughter behind.

This.

The only way the child could reside in another state is if the father of that child would relinquish parental rights - thus allowing the mother, and said child to move elsewhere...Since the father wants to be a part of his daughter's life (I'm assuming this is the case here) - the Stewart clan more, or less will stay in California.

[55fan]

As I recall, when Stu was traded here, the little girl was about 9 or 10. They obviously didn't move at that time since it was near the end of the season and it was a rental. He would be UFA in a few months and there was a new baby on the way.

He then got a 4-year contract with a partial NTC. I remember that it was said at that time that he wanted to stay put until his step-daughter reached high school so that she wouldn't have to be uprooted again.

It seems that the plan was to bring her here. I knew a lady who was divorced in California, and in her case, in order to move away, she had to send her kids to live with their dad in the summer in order to avoid the every-other-weekend visits, which would not have worked over such a long distance.

The only reason she got that was that her ex allowed it.

Apparently in Stuie's case, either the dad or the courts didn't allow it, or he and his wife decided not to move the family.

I do recall that he declined a better offer from Calgary because he didn't want to send the little girl through customs alone on her visitations. Considering that he's from Alberta, that must have been a sacrifice.

Hearing how he has put his wife and her child ahead of his own interests has given me a huge amount of respect for him. I would love for him to stay, but I understand why he wants to be back with his wife and 4-year-old son.

It has to have been rough for him to be away from his little boy, yet he has honoured his contract with the Wings, even though things apparently didn't go as planned.

I wish him well where ever he goes, even if it's with an icky team like the Ducks.

[wingfan1991]

Why can't Ilitch use his mob connections to bypass all this California law s***?

lol good one

[wings1110]

Im assumibng Stuart didn't say he wasn't going to resign, or say he wanted to be on the west coast during negotiations about a contract because the wings would try to do something during the offseason/during the deadline I'm assuming (and maybe wants to stay), because the wings are the type of organization that try to do the best they can for any player.. \I.E. commie.. If stuart wanted to be in cali the wings would try to do something to trade him to cali (their would have been insiders saying there was at least discussions going on with a team in cali?)They let salei and/or both go to cali last season skip games to be with their families, they care about their players more than just pieces of meat unlike many organizations around the world (NHL, Minor Leagues, JR's) but I'm drunk so idk what the f*** is going on...

[lookalive07]

My 2 cents:

My girlfriend of almost 3 years got a job in Boston and I started graduate school in Ohio. Aside from my Spring Break, part of my Winter Break, and me hopefully getting an internship there in the summer, I don't see her. We decided to do long distance, which on a relationship between two people really, really sucks to not be able to see each other that much.

Comparing my situation to Stuart's makes mine look like af****** cakewalk, and I assure you, it isn't easy. The dude is married and has children and has to deal with essentially a full time job with a short amount of leisure in the Summers in the off season. I'm sure it's pretty psychologically draining and I can totally understand his reasons for likely wanting to sign somewhere a lot closer to home. He'd at least have a home to go back to for 41 games out of the year.

[VM1138]

There was an article in the Freep I think about this months ago. The father won't let the daughter leave the state, or else the Stuart's don't want her to be separated from her father. At any rate, it's custody issues.

And it was pretty well assumed by the Wings that Stuart wouldn't resign in '08, either. His daughter is 17, I think the article said, meaning in a year she can move wherever. So he may just decide to tough it out another year.

Edited by VM1138, 28 February 2012 - 10:46 PM.

[WMUCarGuy]

I see almost no chance that Stuie will be a Red Wing come next year. His wife is tugging on the old ball and chain and making him come back to Cali.

[BigWillieStyle]

Didn't realize that he married Pronger's wife.



In all seriousness, I'm pretty sure that Brad and his wife don't want to disrupt her daughters relationship with her father. Even though they could afford to fly her back and forth to California every weekend to see him. Another factor is that her family is from the San Jose area, so she has family members near her to help keep her own sense of family. I applaud both of them for doing what is right for her/their children. In today's world, it's good to see parents putting their children's interests before their own. I have known plenty of people who have uprooted their families and moved for a job that lasted one year, when it would have probably been easier to just take an apartment for the year, and leave their family where they were and travel home on a weekend every few months. I kind of equate Stewie's time here to that of a soldier on his 4th tour of duty, and he is finally being released and able to go home for good.

Whatever his decision is, I'm sure he'll do it with his families best interest in mind, and that doesn't look good for The Wings.

[lookalive07]

All the more reason to push for Shea Weber or Ryan Suter and a very high caliber forward. Stuart's going to be missed and we'll have more than enough cap room to do both.

[Red Wings Addict]

All the more reason to push for Shea Weber or Ryan Suter and a very high caliber forward. Stuart's going to be missed and we'll have more than enough cap room to do both.

Well Weber is a RFA but still...

A top four of

Lidstrom-White \ Weber
Kronwall-Weber \ White

is... well, would any other team in the league have a better top four?

[Shaman464]

So what we're getting at is his wife's ex-husband is responsible for Stuart leaving us this offseason? *******. Which leads me to believe that he most likely as an ******* before all of this!

The ex-husband wants to be near his daughter, that's not a bad thing, he has every right to see his daughter. Its up to Stuart to decide for himself what is best for him and his relationships, if he makes a grown up decision that he wants to be closer to his family I think every Red Wings fan should support him. I feel bad for even having to say this but there are some things more important than hockey.

[redstag88]

"Personal reasons" means it's none of our business.

Exactly

[F.Michael]

Didn't realize that he married Pronger's wife.

[Dominator2005]

At this time/point of his career Brad Stuart should do whatever is the best for his family.

[Manny>Ozzie(by a long shot)]

Maybe he is just using it as a negotiation ploy like lidstrom did.

[Majsheppard]

Most states have a law that says you are only able to move a child so many miles away from their non-custodial parent. Michigan is 100 miles, so if they want to move any farther the court has to decide and it's up to the one that wants to move to prove that it would be to improve the quality of life for the child...and even then they don't have to say yes.

The thing that doesn't make sense to me is that if they went to the court and said. If the kid moves to Michigan, her mother will remain married to a guy pulling in millions of dollars a year. This is in the benefit of the kid.

I would imagine that would make an easy case to win. If I was Stuart, I would also just offer to buy a house for the real father to live in rent free in Michigan. Unless the other guy makes 7 figures.

[55fan]

Or it could be that Stuie is just a decent guy who realizes that he could have to move at the drop or a hat, and that it is important for a child to be with her father, and he's doing the decent thing.

More power to him.